"My Son Is a Homosexual." A Pastoral Approach to Guiding Believers Dealing with Homosexual Family Members in a World of Contrasting Views

Abstract

A homosexual’s “coming out” event is viewed by the secular world as one of the most significant moments in their life. Among believers there should be common ground, yet opinions are mixed. Some Christians have given in to the pressures of the world with their celebration of such “individuality." Other believers will look down their nose at the homosexual, or even someone wrestling with the desires, as if he or she has committed an unforgiveable sin. What is our response when such a sin hits close to home? How do we respond when a family member comes "out of the closet?" Should we immediately rain fire and brimstone of the Law on our loved one? Should we simply keep quiet and remain content with prayer? Should we accept such a lifestyle out of love for the individual? How does a pastor offer Christian guidance to the family conflicted by such a situation? How does he instruct the rest of the congregation? These are some of the questions this paper will explore.