Generation to Generation: Family of Origin Issues and the Christian Counselor

Abstract

This WLCFS resource explores how family-of-origin dynamics influence personal development, relationships, and counseling outcomes. Using a personal narrative, the paper illustrates how awareness, acceptance, and action can help individuals understand and reconcile past family experiences. It emphasizes the importance of exploring unresolved emotional bonds, guilt, and patterns inherited from parents, especially in marital and parenting contexts. Counselors are encouraged to help clients identify core issues, express feelings, and initiate healthy communication with family members. The guide also addresses common challenges such as parental over-involvement, adult survivor traits, and family “skeletons” like alcoholism or abuse. Practical strategies include using “I” messages, leveraging life transitions for change, and coaching clients through difficult conversations. Ultimately, the paper affirms that understanding one’s roots can lead to healing, improved relationships, and a deeper appreciation of God’s guiding hand across generations.

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